In order to let go, grieving is necessary.
In order to let go, grieving is necessary.
Conversations about life are constant. People react in one of three ways: by marveling at it, by complaining nonstop, or by launching into a long philosophical tirade. Life has its fair share of wonderful and cruel moments, but ultimately, it's all up to you.
Oh, and how about the end of life?
Death is a taboo subject because of the fear and uncertainty it inspires in most individuals. To most individuals, the subject is far too morbid to even consider while having introspective thoughts about life, much alone bring up in casual conversation. If you are nearing the end of your life or have recently experienced the death of a loved one, you may find it difficult to stop thinking about and talking about death.
Coming to terms with and accepting one's own mortality is no easy feat. Even the hardestened souls are shaken by the tragedy and the danger it poses. But we are all aware that death is coming, and that it will rob us of this life and all that we hold dear. Death is an inevitable part of life that cannot be avoided no matter how much we wish it would. People often say that death and taxes are the only two things that are guaranteed in life.
We have witnessed the specter of death loom over us, but we remain bewildered by its depths. We try to comfort the mourners by speaking softly to them, but we also take solace in the knowledge that it is not ourselves in the casket.
But how does one deal with passing away? Who can we assist in their time of mourning? When we lose someone we care about—a friend, family member, or loved one—how can we help ourselves?
Being alive leaves us completely bewildered because death is a singular event. We must die to know what it's like to die physically. Unfortunately, most people have experienced loss, another feeling closely associated with dying. When you're grieving, you're experiencing a profound sense of loss. A lot of people experience intense sadness when they lose something important in their lives, such as a job, a valuable asset, a miscarriage, or a relationship.
But the anguish of losing a loved one is incomparable to anything else. It is defined by a cascade of emotions rather than a singular one, including anguish, disappointment, and regret.
Grief is an inevitable emotion for everyone who has ever lost a loved one, despite the fact that it is a terrible and undesirable feeling. Grief is a normal and necessary component of coming to terms with the loss of a loved one, even though it takes different forms for different people.
Although there is no one correct method to grieve, most people go through a series of typical steps after the death of a loved one. Denial is the first and most common step. After hearing the sad news of a loved one's passing, the majority of people experience a state of shock. Even after hearing the terrible news, they just could not believe it. Even when death has been imminent for a long time, loved ones of a terminally ill patient will nevertheless go through a period of denial.
Sometimes, a person's emotional numbness prevents them from grieving at first, but it aids them in making some vital practical arrangements, including contacting family and planning the burial. Anxieties and periods of "unreality" might be problematic if they persist for an extended period of time. Some people require physical contact with the deceased's body in order to recover from emotional numbness. Sometimes the gravity of the situation doesn't hit home until after the funeral or memorial service has concluded. Going to a funeral or viewing the body can be difficult, but it's necessary in order to let go of pent-up feelings and pay respects to the dead. On the other hand, people who try to avoid this occurrence because of the suffering it would cause could end up feeling regret for a long time.
As soon as the numbness goes, a terrible restlessness or longing for the deceased takes its place. The inability to focus, calm down, or get a good night's sleep could be symptoms of the rage and agitation that accompany the death of a loved one. Insomnia and other sleep disorders can emerge. Dreams of the deceased may accompany the grieving individual even if they manage to get some sleep. There are others who think they can "see" their departed loved ones in any public location, including parks, streets, and even within their own homes, as well as in settings where they used to spend time together.
People going through the grief process often experience guilt as well. The thought of what they could have done differently to avert the tragedy of death lingered in their minds, and they could not shake it. It may be helpful to remind the bereaved person that death is often unpredictable. When a loved one with a terminal illness passes away, their loved ones may experience a sense of relief because the sick person is no longer in pain. The family may still feel guilty about how they handled their sick loved one's care.
The problem can get worse and the individual's physical, emotional, and mental health can take a hit if they try to bury their feelings. Buried feelings, the reality is, never truly go away. These feelings often reappear as emotional actions or behaviors, which can lead to self-fulfilling prophecies or vicious cycles. If a depressed person denies feeling unhappy, he may avoid relationships that will make him feel much worse. Just like how emotional eaters experience a series of bingeing episodes to temporarily alleviate pain and grief, so do regular eaters. Yet, when they see that they have relapsed into emotional and eating disorder, they also get furious with themselves.
Following an angry or agitated phase, one enters a silent, withdrawing, and depressed phase. The family or survivor will continue to experience periods of melancholy as a result of the lingering memories of the deceased. When someone who is mourning unexpectedly starts crying, it might be hard for others around them to comprehend. At this point, it could seem that the person is doing nothing much other than sitting about. Surprisingly, though, the individual is likely to dwell on the departed, reliving every memory—the good and the bad—in an effort to forget them. Accepting the dead is a quiet but necessary process.
The depressive symptoms and excruciating agony of loss will pass with time. You may be able to start planning for the future once you've gone through the phases of grief. Although the pain of loss is ever-present, the last stage of mourning is accepting and moving on without the deceased. It is natural for a grieving individual to start a new life once they feel entire again.
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